Articles - Narcissistic Abuse Healing

Why it's NOT as hard to break the trauma bond as you might think... and what do coloured doors have to do with it?

‘How can I possibly be pining for a person who has put me though absolute hell? I know it’s a trauma bond but wow, this is so frickin’ HARD!!! I am in agonising pain and on the verge of admitting myself to hospital because I just can’t cope. How can I stop this?’ That’s a message I received from one of my support group members recently and it’s not an uncommon one.

Maria McMahon

03.07.2022

trauma bond, trauma bonding, breaking the trauma bond, narcissistic trauma bondings

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Is Johnny Depp a Narcissist?

I’m guessing that you have probably been following at least some of the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard trial, as it’s hard to miss it due to the high profile of JD in particular, and the obsession the media has with anything celebrity. I’ve been following as much as I can - and let’s face it, there’s a LOT to try and keep up with - and I have shared a lot of highlights with my FB Group members, and one of the most recent parts of the trial that came up that got some people (especially the JD fans) confused, was the testimony of psychiatrist Dr. David Spiegel, who was called by AH’s defence team, and who said JD might be a narcissist. And then the cross-examination shows you what a farce it really is.

Maria McMahon

28.05.2022

Johnny Depp, Amber Heard, Narcissistic abuse relationship, Intimate partner violence, IPV

Narcissistic Abuse Relationships

7 Tips to handle the narcissistic discard

Discarding is the final stage of the trifecta in narcissistic abuse – love bomb, devalue, discard - although it’s by no means always the end of the line. Their reign of destruction continues with hoovering, flying monkeys and smear campaigns to carry on wreaking havoc in your life, and that’s literally what happens – if you let it. Narcissists discard people like toxic waste and it can be absolutely devastating.

Maria McMahon

14.02.2022

narcissistic abuse, narcissistic discard, narcissisticabusehealing

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Should you 'Get it off your chest' with a Narcissist?

To want to get revenge, get your own back is human nature. When we’ve been wronged and hurt, it’s our moral right to want to defend ourselves. We think that they deserve a piece of our mind, and in most normal relationships, when we’ve been cheated on or betrayed and we confront the person who’s done that to us, they are usually sorry, ashamed or whatever.

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

narcissistic abuse, Revenge on your Narcissist

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

3 Tips to ditch the shame of narcissistic abuse

Do you feel shameful about your narcissistic relationship? If so, I promise you, you’re not alone. Many of the people I’ve worked with said they felt too ashamed to tell anyone, especially when they were married or were in a long-term relationship, and everyone thought their partner was lovely.

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

narcissistic abuse, Narcissistic Abuse Healing, narcissistic abuse shame, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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How do you handle judgemental people when you go back to your Narcissist?

People go back time and time again to their Narcissistic Abuser, before they finally say 'Enough is enough!' and reach out for help Previous to that, even though they knew that going back would just keep on breaking their hearts, the compulsion to go back was irresistible. But there is a REASON why this happens...

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

Going back to your Narcissistic Abuser

Narcissistic Abuse Relationships

Can you 'Fix' a Narcissist? Here's the Harsh Truth

This is something that many people ask, and they hold in their hearts the belief that maybe their Narcissist can be cured, or maybe they can fix them. Sadly though, the fact is, they can’t be ‘fixed’. The nature of NPD itself means that Narcissists don’t think there is anything wrong with them. They think they are perfect and that the world should bend to their every whim, so they rarely ever seek treatment.

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

Fixing the Narcissist

Narcissistic Abuse Relationships

Trauma Bonding: Why you still love a Narcissist and how to stop! 9 Tips to Break the Bond

One of the first questions a victim of Narcissistic Abuse is often asked after they reveal the depths of despair they were in during their relationship with a Narcissist, is ‘Why didn’t you leave sooner’, or worse, ‘Why the hell did you go BACK?’ Victims of Narcissistic abuse frequently leave the relationship because it was unbearable to be...

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

Trauma Bonding, Narcissistic Abuse Healing

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissistic Hoovering - Don't get sucked in!

Vacuum Cleaners, aka Hoovers, suck up dust and debris. The term hoovering is used to describe a common tactic the narcissist uses after the discard phase, usually in multiple attempts to ‘suck’ you back into the relationship. To the narc, you’re nothing more than dust and debris that needs to be hovered up and spat back out again when he’s done abusing you a second (or more!) times around.

Maria McMahon

10.02.2022

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, narcissistic hoovering

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

Why are you never, ever, ever enough for a Narcissist?

Narcissists have an insatiable appetite for fuel, so no matter what you do for them, it will never, ever, be enough. And when that starts to happen, they become angry and disappointed that you’re not living up to their ridiculous and totally unattainable standards. That’s why they start devaluing you. They will criticize absolutely every single thing about you that they possibly can.

Maria McMahon

09.02.2022

Narcissistic Relationships

Narcissistic Abuse Relationships

Why it's NOT as hard to break the trauma bond as you might think... and what do coloured doors have to do with it?

Is Johnny Depp a Narcissist?

7 Tips to handle the narcissistic discard

Should you 'Get it off your chest' with a Narcissist?

3 Tips to ditch the shame of narcissistic abuse

How do you handle judgemental people when you go back to your Narcissist?

Can you 'Fix' a Narcissist? Here's the Harsh Truth

Trauma Bonding: Why you still love a Narcissist and how to stop! 9 Tips to Break the Bond

Narcissistic Hoovering - Don't get sucked in!

Why are you never, ever, ever enough for a Narcissist?

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