The one thing you need to heal from narcissistic abuse…
You might have been with a narcissist for a couple of months, or multiple years. But the fact is, it doesn't matter how long you've been in a relationship with a narcissist - the damage they do is undeniable. They make your life a complete and utter misery. The narcissist could be your partner, your parent, or even a co-worker or boss. It doesn't matter who they are - they all have the ability to emotionally destroy you.
Maybe you've decided that enough is enough and you just don't want to go on feeling this way for yet ANOTHER year? Maybe you've decided to put it all behind you and fully heal? But you don't know how to do that, or where to start, and worst of all, you’ve been told a thousand times that it’s really hard to heal, and that it takes years?
I work with people who have been suffering, and struggling for way too long. They have tried many methods of healing, they've read up on narcissistic abuse, watched a ton of videos on YouTube, even worked with 'trauma specialists', but they are STILL suffering. I wanted to make a bold statement about why that might be the case, and bust open the myth that it’s really HARD to heal and that it takes a really long time. So I did that with my new book – Narcissistic Abuse Healing: The No-B.S. Guide to Healing in Weeks, Not Years.
I think people have been misinformed about what it really takes to heal, and that it requires years and years of therapy, because the fact is, you can heal in a matter of weeks. I say this with full confidence because I work with clients all the time and I see the transformation and healing happening in a matter of just weeks, not years. It just requires a fresh perspective. You need to change your thinking from ‘It’s not possible’ to ‘It IS possible!’ Your beliefs are governed by your subconscious mind, and your constant reinforcement of those beliefs that you can’t heal quickly.
So, I want to let you in on the first thing you really need, if you are to heal, and that’s quite simply, commitment. Commitment to YOURSELF. You have to reach that place where you have decided enough is enough, you’re done with living like this, and that this year you’re going to do what it takes for YOU to heal.
Make the decision right now, then sit back and think about what that would look like for you. How would it feel to wake up feeling happy and free? Isn’t that something you deserve? Aren’t you worth fighting for? Ask yourself what would it really take for you to heal? Where are you stuck? Are you trauma bonded? Suffering with triggers or flashbacks? Sick of ruminating? I’ve created a workbook to accompany my new book, and it lists out all the physical and emotional symptoms that are commonly associated with narcissistic abuse, so that you can literally tick the boxes and add up your score. It leaves you in no doubt about what you have been hiding from everyone, yourself included. So, if you’re struggling, then I definitely recommend you check out my book. It’s very low-cost too because I wanted it to be affordable for everyone.
Facing the truth of the extent of the abuse is a brave step to take, and it can be scary but it’s vital you do it – you need to take stock of where you are, and from there, figure out where you want to go next.
Another good question to ask yourself is what is it costing you to stay stuck in this unhappy place? Get a pen and paper and write down whatever comes up. When you start facing the reality of your situation, I know it can be scary, but isn’t it far worse to do nothing, and go on living with the emotional fallout of the abuse?
If you really want to heal, then do yourself the biggest favour ever and make that commitment to yourself that this year, you are going to fight for YOU.
You can check out my book here: https://tinyurl.com/no-BS-book
Or book a session to talk with me here: https://book1-2-1-withmaria.as.me/